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Craig , you are correct , but I think Rough is referring the basic masculine response in these situations , not suggesting that women are inferior . Hell , I want to punch the manager also , even though it probably solves nothing ;D Dusty
Rough , I don't make a habit of punching anyone , really pretty peaceful , but yeah , sometimes our blue collar ways are effective ;D In this particular case , with this particular guy , probably a word , or maybe like my dog does , placing a body in front of the manager would have prevented her discomfort and made it clear that his behavior was unacceptable . What is the old axiom about an ounce of prevention ? Dusty
Anyone can report improper actions to HR. Document, document, document. Copy emails, statements. Document who/what/where/when. She has two witnesses. What's the hesitation? Waiting for someone else 'to do something'?
Banks have cameras everywhere....was any of it caught on a security camera?
First question:Is your wife personally offended enough by the work environment & the manager to file a personal grievance against the guy?OrIs she concerned for the young lady and wants to help/support her in her claim?If your wife feels it impacts her work to the point the needs to file a claim.. She is well within her rights to contact corprate HR.. Skip trying to have the 'come to Jesus' lecture with the manager... Direct confrontation is HIGHLY unlikely to change his behavior, more likely single her out to be picked onIf she wants to help/support the young teller, she needs to communicate with this girl & let her know she 'has her back' is willing to provide statements to HR etc... But it is on the girl to initiate the claim. Independently going around the girl directly to HR or the manager "on her behalf"... That is asking for trouble. Oddly, I have even seen situations where the 'victim' becomes resentful at those trying to help... If your wife raises a big stink and the girl in question doesn't even want to pursue it.. Your wife will end up being the 'rat' 'busybody' 'troublemaker' 'nosey' of the office! Even if her intentions are goodSent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
Yes Rick , this a tough deal . I will offer to kick the guy in his huevos , being a nice guy and all . Seriously , seems like your wife is handling this right , make sure she knows that a bunch of greasy old motorsickle riders are on their side . Dusty
Nothing worse than working with a member of the he woman man haters club. We have gotten so thin skinned. They all need to shut up and do thier J.O.B.
I'll stand by John here in voicing my own opinion that while the manager sounds like a jerk, made a snide comment, and forced himself in with an unwanted hug - the whole event seems to be blown waaaay out of proportion. It's a hug, for god's sake. As for the comment- it was crass and inappropriate. Do you really think someone must lose their job over one comment (no fair claiming the reported prior comments- the man has to be brought on charges for what went on that day. Prior hearsay is inadmissable)? Remember our system here before you decide to burn me at the stake also- everyone deserves a vigorous defense. If the person has not been made aware that his comments can be construed as offensive, then he is due a warning. After that, I guess you could subject him to a series of sensitivity workshops. This alone should be enough to cause him to selfimmolate or run out into traffic. In the grand scheme of things, I refuse to see how this work environment of being a teller in a suburban bank is somehow unbearably abusive and demeaning. Get a grip, folks. What about the poor souls who have to work in soul crushing assembly line factories? How about back breaking field work? How about mining? Do you really think folks are concerned about potentially offensive overtones when they are a mile underground listening for the creaks and groans that might mean they are about to be buried alive?
I have confronted a lot of bosses, and I have never regretted doing so. In this case, a simple aside might get the job done, and it doesn't preclude official action in HR. I'm certain the bank has cameras everywhere so it should be recorded. Bottom line for me is, jobs are just not as important as my integrity. And I have the 8 page resume to prove it. ::) I won't be belittled in any way by a boss. (though I take heat well from co- and underlings)