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General Category => General Discussion => Topic started by: Dave Swanson on January 23, 2020, 04:39:16 PM
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My wonderful wife of 41 years passed away peacefully at home this morning. Some of you know that she had a long 30+ year battle with Multiple Sclerosis. The battle she waged so bravely and with amazing grace is now over. Never miss an opportunity to say I love you to those you love. I will miss kissing her forehead and telling her so tomorrow. I was truly blessed to be by her side during her struggle. Being the caregiver for one that you love can bring many unforeseen blessings.
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Very sorry to hear. Great words. This must be extremely hard. Accept my condolences.
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Very sorry to hear this news, Dave. My sincere condolences to you and your family. She is resting at peace now...
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My sincere condolences, Dave. As an RN, who worked in home care with terminal patients, for many years, I feel that anyone who is a caretaker to a loved one until the end is a hero in my book! Its one of the toughest things to go through,and I can tell , Dave,that you did it with huge amounts of love and compassion!
God bless you ,and your family Dave,
Rick D.
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Dave, so sorry for your loss.
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Very sorry to hear Dave.
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Dave,
I'm so sorry for your loss. Sincere condolences and may she rest in peace.
Nick
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Like everyone here in the WG family , let me offer a word of condolence .
However , let me also say this , thanks for allowing her to live with dignity , well done Dave :bow:
Dusty
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Very sorry, my condolences.
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I'm so sorry Dave. I don't have the words. My deepest sympathy.
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Thank you on behalf of all of us for being her caregiver; what a wonderful gift.
Lannis
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Dave that's very sad news. Sincere condolences to you and others, whose hearts are aching.
To be able to live and die with dignity and loved ones around you, you can't do better than that.
Kelly
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I have no words.
God bless.
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Very sorry for your loss. I am new to my profession but i see a
lot of caretakers and even spouses not show any any where near your dedication or grief. She truly must have been a terrific person and you seem to be as well.
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Please accept my condolences, Dave. No words of wisdom here, just that I am saddened to here about your loss. Take care.
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Dave,
Congratulations and God bless you on the so many levels. You sir are an inspiration in caring for and loving our loved ones. I believe there’s a special blessing available to those who have done what you have for your wife.
God bless you and your house,
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Dave,
wonderfully said and you were blessed to have each other.
Mark
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Sorry for your loss.
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I'm so sorry to hear of your loss Dave, I know you must have lots of nice memories.
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Dave,
So sorry. Been there and it will always leave a hole the heart but there can still be a good life for us survivors if we let it happen and I believe that is what our spouses would have wanted for us.
GliderJohn
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Dave, hope you find peace...
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So very sorry. We're with you.
My friend Jimmie Heuga was diagnosed with MS in 1968. When he died three years ago his best friend Billy Kidd told us all: "Jimmie doesn't have MS anymore!"
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Peace to you and your family after all this lengthy suffering. May you find comfort amongst family and friends in this sad time.
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So sorry Dave.
Cam
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Sorry for your loss.Think of the good times.
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Dave,
Our most sincere condolences for your loss.
You were her saint as her care giver. You both can rest now.
Do remember the good.
Best,
Rob & Sue
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Sorry to hear that Dave. I'm sure it's tough to maintain a 'glass half full' viewpoint at this time. Nothing in this cockeyed universe lasts forever, so cherish the good things every moment they're around. My solution for times like this is creating something. Find something you love doing and do it, whatever that might be. (no clue what that could possibly be...) (LIAR!!!)
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Dave - we have all read your words here over the years but I for one did not know you carried this role as your wife’s caregiver.
My sincere condolences to you Dave. I hope you find comfort from many sources including your friends here.
God Bless you Dave. And may you take some comfort in knowing your wife’s suffering is over. Please hang in there.
Ron
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Such sad news, I am sorry for your loss, be well.
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Dave,
As a fellow care giver to the one who you and also in my case have pledged to stand by through all that life can set before you please accept my most heart felt sorrow for your loss. And as well my respect for your having fought the good fight. It is a hard task to take on and complete. May you find comfort in knowing you finished the course. I will keep you in my prayers along with all who still have a ways to go in a very difficult turn of events in life.
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I'm very sorry, Dave. You have friends here.
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Mr. Swanson, Nothing but respect for you sir for hanging in there when the going got tough. Commitment, she has been blessed, I am in awe! God bless you! Prayers to you and yours from the Adirondacks.
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Sad news, indeed. You must have been a wonderful couple.
Rich A
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So sorry for you loss.
Dave
Galveston
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I like to think that the change from this form to the next is especially wonderful for those who suffer with long term issues.
Your words are a great tribute to your wife and a reminder for all to cherish today-tomorrow is never assured.
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I am so sorry for your loss. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.
Randy
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So sorry to hear of your loss. Our prayers are with you.
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So sorry Dave. 🙏
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God Bless you Dave,
I’ve heard it said and experienced it on my own that; “her absence is forever present”. Remember this though, the love doesn’t die and her spirit and soul remain more alive now than ever.
Jack
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Condolences Dave. :cry:
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My condolences to you and your family. My respect to you for you (and your family's) commitment.
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It's hard to lose a best friend for any reason.
Value the time you had and remember that. She will always
be with you.
Value the family that is WildGuzzi. We care about each other.
Any needs...ask.
I will take your words to heart and give Laurie an extra hug
tonight.
Jeff
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Wow. 41 years. That's a great life together. I know it will be hard.
But how blessed you were.
Peace
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I'm sorry to hear about the passing of your wife my friend. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
Andy
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Sorry for your loss, many prayers.
Mark
New Richmond, WI
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My sincere condolences, Mr. Swanson. From your words - you provided immense comfort to her; and 41 years of marriage is a great duration.
God Bless her and you.
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Regards.
Take care Dave
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Dave, my sincere condolences on the loss of your wife, soulmate and friend. You have indeed stood the test 'for better and for worse'.
My thoughts and prayers are with you at this time.
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Sincerest condolences.
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Dave,
So sad to hear your news. You are in my thoughts.
Best Wishes
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You are in our thoughts Dave, you have a world of friends here.
Sarah
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I am so sorry for your loss.
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Very sorry to hear this Dave...
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Nothing I can say here to ease your pain but deepest condolences and please be well.
Chad
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I can only echo what has already been said. She is at peace and you were there when she needed you. Honor her now as you have for these past many years. I am thinking of you.
John Henry
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Just saw this and thought, "there *are* good people and good in this world." Of course, there is nothing I can say except this, too, shall pass. I've never met you, but wish I had..
Take care of yourself, now..
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Peace to you, Dave. Sensitive and gentle care for your wife is evidence that your dedication and loyalty is genuine. I'm sure this was not lost on your spouse, but also probably influenced the behavior of others who knew of your struggle. I know that I have been affected by your journey. Blessings and comfort to you as you begin this next stage of your life. We're here if you need us...
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Caregivers are a special breed of people sacrificing so much to help out a loved one. The best to you
Tex
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Sorry to hear this Dave.
Hoping you will always remember the time you had together.
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So sorry to hear about your loss.
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My condolences on your loss and my best wishes to your family! (my words are pitifully insufficient)
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My wonderful wife of 41 years passed away peacefully at home this morning. Some of you know that she had a long 30+ year battle with Multiple Sclerosis. The battle she waged so bravely and with amazing grace is now over. Never miss an opportunity to say I love you to those you love. I will miss kissing her forehead and telling her so tomorrow. I was truly blessed to be by her side during her struggle. Being the caregiver for one that you love can bring many unforeseen blessings.
Dave I'm so sorry to hear this my prayers for you and your family, You are a good man to stand by your wife. Its hard to become a caregiver for your wife when she is sick. Its a very different role for us when we transition to that. When i took care of Ginger it was a blessing and hard at times but like you was glad to be there next to her
Good Luck my friend.
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Condolences Dave. After the long battle at least you were together at the end with a life long set of memories. Peace be with you.
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Dave very sorry to hear about your life partners passing. Sharing 41 years together is certainly a testament of your love. Being the primary care giver, watching and helping that partner pass supported by your love qualifies you for saint hood. At least in my book. Good luck with your transition to the next phase.
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So sorry for your loss.
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Please accept my condolences. Peace be with you.
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My condolences, Dave.
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My condolences
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deepest condolences
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Our hearts, thoughts and prayers are with you.
Paul B
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So very sorry to hear this. I will be thinking about you during this sad time.
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Our thoughts are with you and your family.
Don and Deb
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My condolences.
Moto
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Your words on being a carer brought a tear to my eye mate...
The more your hurting now shows the more you loved her.
My thoughts are are with you Dave.
Greg
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I am often a man of too many words, but, as are so many when reading such news, am now at a loss for the right ones.
I will say, Dave, that your love, kindness, and dedication over the past many years have earned you not only Gayle’s own love for you, but the respect and awe of all who read of your devotion to your lost darling. We will all no doubt hold our loved ones tighter tonight and beyond because of your poignant post.
Please accept our admiration and prayers. We have made a contribution in to your wife's memory to the National Multiple Sclerosis Society, https://www.nationalmssociety.org.
Bill & Kathi Hagan
Cross Junction, Virginia
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Sorry for your loss, prayers for you and your family'
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Thanks for all the kind responses. I am very touched. The WG community is very special.
For the first time I will have the opportunity to attend some rallies. I will enjoy thanking some of you in person when that happens.
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I find solace that I was able to fulfill my promise that she could count on me to care for her to the end. Being there for someone who really needs you is an honor and a rare privilege. I miss her very much but know it would only be selfish to wish she could still be with us.
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Body is gone but the spirit lives on.. I have been in the long term care giving role too.. Only people that have been there, really know what it takes. Funny thing, we are the ones that are blessed to be able help where we can. It brings a lot of what is truly important in our lives,and others.
Time to take care of yourself, and enjoy every moment you have left. It's exactly what your loved one would of wanted for you..
Many of your thoughts are very similar to what I thought about at that time in my life.. You are totally on the right track .(IMO)
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Here is the link to Gayle's service. Her picture hasn't been uploaded yet, but I have included the pic we are using.
https://www.fitzgeraldfh.com/obituaries/Gayle-M-Swanson?obId=10685602&fbclid=IwAR2-rO4MU0S2zm4Xw96i6SqCN3ojohcwO1KIQY9dFF7AQ-dPKP4rMfF8JBc#/celebrationWall
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My sympathy and admiration Dave. This so sad and sweet. She is lovely.
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Thanks for all the kind responses. I am very touched. The WG community is very special.
For the first time I will have the opportunity to attend some rallies. I will enjoy thanking some of you in person when that happens.
Let me extend a personal invitation to Cedar Vale .
Dusty
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I want to thank you for posting, I ( we) wouldn’t have known. It’s touched us all.
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Dave,
You have the condolences of my family and me. My wife also has MS and we have been together for 40 years. She is fighting the good fight and I will be with her as long as I breathe. There really aren't any words to express how this touches me. May she rest in peace and may you continue on in peace.
Tom
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Dave I am so sorry for your loss
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Condolences...
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Thanks again guys.
We had Gayle's visitation and service on 1/29. The outpouring of love and support for Gayle and my family was beyond amazing. My son, daughter and myself gave eulogies along with a few close family friends. The feedback received by those that attended has been very heartfelt. It was a great tribute to a life well lived in spite of all her challenges.
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I have no words. Bless you Dave.
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[quote author=Dave Swanson link=topic=104224.msg1651124#msg1651124 I was truly blessed to be by her side during her struggle. Being the caregiver for one that you love can bring many unforeseen blessings.
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Been there. So sorry for your loss.
It will get better, just be strong. Peace and strength to you.
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I'm so sorry for your loss Dave. I recently experienced the loss of a loved one.
I believe that our memories will be fond ones, our wings will unfold & we will fly again.
On a motorcycle is a wonderful way to begin.
Ride far & safe.
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So sorry again Dave. I was so impressed when you told me about how long you'd been taking care of your lovely wife. Not a lot of men like that around.
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Dave, just wondering how you are doing?
I know we never “get over losing a loved one”, why would we want to? That is where the memories reside.
Do you feel as I’ve heard and experienced that, “her absence is forever present”? Bill Hendricks
God speed to you brother.
Jack aka inditx
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My prayers is for your peace Dave.
God bless🙏
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Dave, just wondering how you are doing?
I know we never “get over losing a loved one”, why would we want to? That is where the memories reside.
Do you feel as I’ve heard and experienced that, “her absence is forever present”? Bill Hendricks
God speed to you brother.
Jack aka inditx
Jack, thanks for your thoughts and concern. I am getting by pretty well. The primary responsibility and focus of most of my adult life is now completed. I am thinking through what will be the focus of the next phase of my life. I only asked that I be able to see it through to the end, and never let myself contemplate what I would do afterwards. I have another year of work ahead (I am considered essential in an essential industry). When I am fully retired I am not sure yet what will be in store for me, but I certainly do not plan on wasting the time I have left. One thing I do know is that some good long motorcycle rides will be part of it.
I still miss her very much, and will cherish memories of her everyday of my life . I will always be proud that she chose my shoulder to lean on..
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Thanks, Dave. I’ve come to believe that we are not human beings that strive to be spiritual but we are spirit beings that are experiencing human life and we will go back to a spiritual existence after this life is over. Best regards, John
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There aren't adequate words to ease your loss. Know that you loved and were loved in return.
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Thanks, Dave. I’ve come to believe that we are not human beings that strive to be spiritual but we are spirit beings that are experiencing human life and we will go back to a spiritual existence after this life is over. Best regards, John
Yep. Or (as CS Lewis put it) .... "You don't 'have' a soul. You ARE a soul - you 'have' a body."
Lannis
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I wish there was something profound to say.
Very sorry for your loss.
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My sincere condolences!!
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Very sorry to hear. Best hope for you in the future.
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Guys, Dave's lovely Wife passed away on January 23rd
I posted this because some of the recent responses don't seem to reflect that.
Best wishes Dave
Roy
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Well said Dave.
If you’re ever around KC when you take one of those long bike rides, stop by and see me.
I’ll break bread with ya.
Jack
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Praying for you and yours. God Bless 🙏
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Blessings. In a very small way, I'm with you, we all are.
I'm convinced of an after-life. And you will join your love there.
Spud
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After 5 months Gayle's stone is finally in place. It came from a quarry in Georgia. We all feel better that the grave is no longer unmarked.
Before Gayle passed I was resistant to make my final arrangements like most of us I presume. Now it is a comfort to know that my exit is planned out and when I stand next to her grave under that ground is where I will ll be one day. It doesn't bother me a bit now, and actually provides comfort.
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I'm glad you have some closure.
John Henry
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A fitting monument to a deserving woman.
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Wow. This is so tough. Thank you for sharing it. Reminds me of how sad but wonderful life can/will be. It also made me want to hug and kiss my wife when she gets home today. Thoughts and prayers with you.
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Dave - I just stumbled onto this thread a few minutes ago; I had no idea that this was part of your recent history. Let me add my feelings of sadness at your loss. It must be of some comfort, however, that so many in the Guzzi family have taken the time to reach out with a comment or two of support for you.
JC
(your saddlebags supplier)
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May she rest in peace. Please accept my condolences...
The fact that you were all these long years by her side speaks volumes of your qualities as a human being and as a real man.