Son got married today

[bobrebos]

My son and his wife to be flew to Colorado and are getting married today, with no family present.  That's what they wanted to do and I said do what makes you happy as it is your day and not everyone elses.  That said they stated they would have a little dinner/reception at end of June for family to celebrate with them. 

But now that today is here and almost gone by now I gotta admit, not being at my sons wedding is kind of hard to take.  I get that thats what they wanted to do, but I think family members are a little put off......  Oh well, its their marriage, not mine so I need to remember its not about me being able to go to their wedding, its about them being happy.  Times have changed though when it comes to weddings that's for sure. 

[wirespokes]

Very thoughtful of him, saving you guys the expense!

Weddings are one of those things that helps having everyone there creating it with you. It gets all the agreement from others which helps mock it up good and solid.

Maybe he can text you some photos?

[Ncdan]

My son and his bride got married in our barn with our horses standing in the stalls. The bride rode  to the barn on her horse with her Dad leading the horse. I played the fiddle as my best friend play the guitar and sang “Just look at us” I simply can’t imagine our family not being involved. What ever works for each family is ok.

[twowheeladdict]

I'm sure they had their reasons.  My youngest moved to New Zealand 3 years ago.  Only see him on bi-weekly video chats.

[blu guzz]

I know what you are saying about "their wedding".  On the other hand, I am not that sensitive and I think it is a real lousy move.  That sort of thing may be the new normal, but I don't have to like it.  As one man with a son to another, I feel for you Bob.  You are a bigger man than me because if my son did that, we would have some big trouble in little China.

[Daleroso]

I'm sorry.😔

[Dave Swanson]

I would have been gutted by that.  Sorry for you and your family.

[pebra]

Some people are not comfortable with big family events, and choose not to have big weddings etc.

I think that should be respected. Sour comments from relatives go to show you their love isn't that deep anyway.

[Kev m]

One of my SILs (the Marine) used to work with her father. She came to work dressed up one day, left for lunch and met her now husband at the courthouse where they got married and both then went back to their respective jobs.

They did however have a small reception at a local brewery a few months later.

[inditx]

So sorry, I feel for ya.
For me I think it is important to have family and friends as witnesses to the union. Unfortunately I was not given the chance to attend my daughters wedding either.
Only time will tell if they wished they would have done it differently. For now we just celebrate their marriage.
inditx

[mhershon]

I don't know how it is in Tennessee, but here in Colorado you can go to the office of the Clerk and Recorder and pay $35, I believe, and you are handed a marriage license. You have to tell them if you are divorced and where your divorce was done. The two of you can simply sign the license and presto you are married. If you don't sign it on the premises, you have a period of time, maybe it's six weeks, during which all you have to do is sign the license and mail it back to the Clerk and Recorder's office. It's simple and easy and cheap. My wife's brother and his wife live in California. They flew to Denver. My mother-in-law lives here. That's really the extent of our family. We sat down for dinner at a nice restaurant and after ordering we signed the license. The waitress was delighted: "You got married at my table!"

It's a no-fuss deal. Maybe that's why they did what they did. I gotta say: I'm super pleased to be part of a forum where folks can share these things with one another.

[elvisboy77]

I always tell my kids "no matter what, I will always love you".  It has gotten me through some tough spots.  Hang in there.

[bobrebos]

Im happy for them....so its all good!  Just feels weird to me that no family or friends witnessed it or got to go to it.  Oh well......Life goes on!

[Texas Turnip]

My oldest daughter called me worried that I'd be upset that her and her husband got privately married by a JP. The marriage is between them so it didn't bother me at all. Two grandsons and 15 years later they are still doing great (except they live in Austin, TX, but they exscaped from Houston.)

Tex