No relay, really. Wiring Diagram #4 is lights relay, did you not read it. Wires they use are too tiny for full current.
Executive Summary
There is no high amperage headlamp flow through the
ECU dash, but there is probably such a current through the left handlebar switch of the Breva 1100 on high beam. Your solution should be to connect both your head lamp and the auxiliary lamps to the output terminal of a suitable, high-amperage relay, triggered from the disconnected
head lamp high beam wire of the original circuit.
DetailsThe light relay is activated by a low amperage circuit (connector terminals 1 and 2) that the
ECU dash connects to ground when the engine starts. When the relay closes, terminal 5 becomes hot, feeding a black wire to the headlamp and to the left handlebar switch. The wire to the headlamp is the high-current feed to the low beam filament.
Whether the circuit completed from the black wire through the left handlebar switch and then through the white wire to the high beam filament is high current, or merely a low current trigger, is unclear: there is also a continuation of the black wire circuit shown going directly from the low beam to the high beam bulb(!). There must be either an error in the wiring diagram or a relay in the headlamp that is not shown.
It is interesting that the wiring diagram for the Breva's sexier brother, the Griso 1100, is different, even though the handlebar lighting switch is diagrammed as the same. In the Griso, both the low and high beam high amperage circuits go from the light relay through the left handlebar switch.
So, for the Griso there is high amperage going through the handlebar switch for both high and low beam. For the Breva, there is no current through the handlebar switch for low beam, and either a low or high amperage current for high beam. My guess is that it is high amperage.
I don't quite understand where your existing relay for the auxiliary lamps is, but if you want to wire one that will feed high current to the auxiliaries while leaving your high beam circuit as it was (and operating in parallel with the auxiliaries), obtain a four-terminal normally open 12v relay and do this:
1. Connect the white wire at the high beam bulb to terminal 86 of the relay.
2. Connect terminal 85 to ground. That circuit is the trigger.
3. Connect terminal 30 to the battery, via an appropriate fuse.
4. Connect terminal 87 to the auxiliary lamp(s).
You can find the wiring setup I just described here:
http://www.12voltplanet.co.uk/relay-guide.htmlIt's under the heading, "1. Adding driving lights that come on with the headlight main beam."
Actually getting around to your question: "How do you wire both the aux lights and high beam to a relay without harming the new relay and impacting the dash?" -- If the high beam was disconnected by the PO and you complete the relay wiring as described, you can also connect the high beam to terminal 87. You should check your relay's rated amperage: it should be greater than the sum of the amps drawn by the headlight and the two auxiliary lamps. Your wire from the battery should be 14 gauge, I'd say. Many would recommend 12 gauge. This setup has the advantage of making it completely clear that no high amperage will be going through the handlebar switch (if it ever did). Your dash will be completely unaffected.
Hope this helps. Sorry to have written so much.
Moto